Does Obama Demonstrate that Civility is Suicide?

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Wither Civility?

I have to confess, I'm rather shocked to find that anyone would suggest that civility was not beneficial to public discourse. There is really never a justifiable reason to be unkind. One can be firm as granite and say some very forceful things without being unkind, maintaining all the while civility.

I also find it interesting that the above dialogue, not the posted comments, appears to be a discussion between Liberals largely about why they should bother being civil to Conservatives who are clearly not intelligent enough to deserve civil discourse. Which leads me to wonder whether the concept of civility is lost to an entire generation. Wikipedia's article on Civil Discourse contains the following:

It neither diminishes the other's moral worth, nor questions their good judgment; it avoids hostility, direct antagonism, or excessive persuasion; it requires modesty and an appreciation for the other participant's experiences.

 

Civility is, in the end, a commentary on the one behaving is a civil manner. To act uncivil, to demonize another in the course of discussion says far more about the speaker than the subject being discussed.

Posted by Smittie on Mon, 02/13/2012 - 00:08
demonization

We have come to a similar conclusion: The demonization is what is truly dangerous and destroys the debate.  Vehement disagreement, even sometimes difficult disagreement, can yield real civic progress - where the conflict between ideas ultimately - in theory - can yield better ideas.  But when we assume ill intent about each other out of whole cloth it destroys the fabric of the conversation.  You hear it stated overtly on talk radio all the time:  "How can you compromise with someone who wants to destroy America/is evil/hates you/thinks you're dumb (pick your flavor)."  That conversation cannot be revived.  As we have reached out to each other, made civil discourse a little cooler here in Tallahassee, many of these problems simply take care of themselves.  When you look someone in the eyes, when you have a real conversation with them, when you behave like neighbors, it's very hard to demonize each other.  I do think that the reaction to No Labels and their launch on both sides of the aisle (Rich, Olbermann among them - if you didn't catch Olbermann's stunning commentary read it here: http://tothevillagesquare.org/blog/2010/12/17/real-evidence-were-in-real... ) really drives home how far we've gone astray from constructive civic space.

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Posted by Liz Joyner on Fri, 12/24/2010 - 17:41
Is civility equivalent to respect for fair rules of engagement?

At bottom, I think we have to talk about our own intentions for pushing the notion of civility, and realize that our argument has to be understandable and saleable. 

When two fighters approach each other in the center of the ring and bump gloves, they are signaling respect for each other, and respect for a set of rules of engagement: No biting, kicking, hair-pulling, head-butting, or hitting below the belt. When we talk about civility, I think we are referring to something similar. It has nothing to do with politeness, but everything to do with respect for each other, and for fair rules of engagement. The question is, how do we define the political equivalent of hitting below the belt? A better question, perhaps, is: haven't we always known what the rules are, and simply lowered our requirements of our opinion leaders to observe them? What is responsible for this, and is there anything we can do to get it back? 

For several decades, I was struck by what I regarded as the quaintness of the formalities observed in the Senate. However, I now see that they signal something important, which is respect for the institution, for the process, and ultimately for one's opponent. It is the equivalent of bumping gloves in the center of the ring. It is not a daily declaration of three candidates for "Worst Person in the World," or a count of how many days it has been since someone committed your favorite hypocrisy.

The notion to sell, I think, is if you don't have respect for the rules, you can never expect your opponent to; that you begin with the assumption of the sincere intentions of all parties, and cling to it; that you call only the obvious fouls, and treat the rest as the inevitable butting of elephants' heads; that you regard observance of the rules as a badge of character, and be clear that badge must be worn by people you engage with, listen to on the news, or vote for.

Posted by Darrell Icenogle on Wed, 12/22/2010 - 16:06
One thing I've noticed is we

One thing I've noticed is we are all blind to the crazies on our side.  The use of the amorphous terms "liberal" and "conservative" exacerbates this (what about center-right classical liberals, or center-left old-style FDR liberals?  Neither fit into the "conservative" and "liberal" labels as defind today).  For example, I generally don't have a problem with Rush Limbaugh (most of the time), and it rarely occurs to me that he's anything other then a harmless entertainer.  On the other hand, I find Keith Olberman is extremely disturbing.

But the tribal issue is truly the most important.  It is absurd for liberal-minded people to ally with such institutions as the California Teachers Association (hated even by many teachers, and I suspect many local teacher unions) or the union rent-seeking culture that resulted in my exclusion from the public education system (long story).  It is also absurd, I suppose, for center-right classical liberals (e.g. between libertarian and liberal) like myself to share the same "label" as the Family Research Council. 

There are no liberals or conservatives.  There is no one-size-fits-all definition of a liberal, or a conservative; it's tribalism, pure and simple.  Highly reactionary unions bosses--the ones running the state- and national-level organizations--are not liberal.  A lot of the center-right is not really conservative.  Wrongs are not rights because someone in your tribe committ them against the enemey--or even a member of their own sub-tribe (tribal loyalty should not trump social wrongs, but they do).  Tribalism is our single greatest issue, and to solve it will mean the end of populism.  No working-class labor populism, no tax-cutting middle-class populism, no identity-group populism, no class warefare, no environmental populism.  It must all end.

Posted by joeedh on Wed, 04/20/2011 - 00:08